What is Anger?
Anger is a psychological emotional wound, it is a cut in your soul that when not healed turn to strong, intense, negative feelings Anger is never the first feelings is a secondary feeling on what we get triggered in us. It is a reaction on how we feel treated, "they do not care about me that is why i am angry" " they do not respect value... appreciate me
Which means it is a secondary feeling. So then, the real question is what is the root cause of anger?
Anger is a feeling that is cause when treated negatively or provoked. It is the accumulated feeling of being disrespected, feeling not worthy, hurt, sadness, etc.
We do not respond to what happens, we respond to our perspective and our interpretation of what happened, the interpretation of what just happened, and we did not choose it... it is not like we went through these possibilities; your brain just jumps. The question is why? because it goes back to trauma. You did not respond to the present moment; you respond to the past. If there is a way, you have been treated before that is still not healed, when you are triggered, the reaction will be anger and rage. This is because something in you is still saying you are not "wealthy, you are not enough", something in you not in another person. Henceforth it becomes easy for you to get angry.
If you are feeling angry, always remember that is something in you that makes you a victim, the source of that anger is what is in your past or childhood programming. You have got to change from being a victim to being a victor, be in charge of your feelings. you can decide not to be triggered.
Problems are always teaching opportunities that when you re-frame and look deeper, you actually realize that the source is within.
Self-empowerment
You can heal yourself. Healing is all about empowering yourself. It does not matter what state of mind you are in; it does not matter what you are experiencing, and you can still transform yourself. The true self that you got disconnected from is still available to you. It is not a question of just talking about what happened in the past, but it is also reconnecting with self when describing the past.
In the story of David, we see an incident when Nabal responded negatively to David, and this triggered the sense of worthlessness in David. Taking him to childhood where David was not much valued by his parents to an extent of forgetting about him. Saul was after David's life and in this moment, David was very frustrated.
1 Samuel 25:10.
Nabal answered David's servants, "Who is this, David? Who is this son of Jesse? Many servants are breaking away from their masters these days. Why should I take my bread and water, and the meat I have slaughtered for my shearers, and give it to men coming from who knows where?"
This answer triggered the past in David's life making him feel worthless. Taking him back to the way his brothers were treating him.
1Samuel 17:28
Now Eliab his oldest brother heard when he spoke to the men; and Eliab's anger was aroused against David, and he said, "Why did you come down here? In addition, with whom have you left those few sheep in the wilderness? I know your pride and the insolence of your heart, for you have come down to see the battle."
This is how David was always treated in his childhood and Nabal triggered this past emotion.
1 Samuel 25:12
"So, David's young men turned on their heels and went back; and they came and told him all these words. 13 Then David said to his men, "Every man gird on his sword." Therefore, every man girded on his sword, and David also girded on his sword. And about four hundred men went with David"
This kind of anger is for war! It is rage and David is overreacting. His anger is his childhood trauma, fueled by the frustration from running away from Saul.
Trauma makes you to overreact. How could David take 400 men to attack one man and his family?
God used Abigail, a wise woman, to heal David of his emotional wounds.
She sent food to David first knowing that David did not just need food, he needed emotional healing.
She treated David like a King (while David was insulted). She reminded him of who he was in the eyes of God. She restored David to his true self.
She humbled herself and apologized on the behalf of her husband and reminded David of all the other enemies that are after him who are as worthless as Nabal.
She declared comforting words to David, to ensure him that the Lord will certainly make him a sure house. In this moment David was homeless and restless, so he surely needed to hear these comforting words.
Mostly she reminded David of his victory, the highest victory against Goliath. To confirm that even this battle from the powerful King Saul, will also be a victorious one.
1 Samuel 25:29
"...and the lives of your enemies He shall sling out, as from the pocket of a sling"
Here Abigail refers to the victory against Goliath. She stopped David indirectly from acting in his folly because; when we are angry, we act out of our senses. That would have been a bad record for David in the eyes of God and this would have disqualified David.
Proverbs 16:32
He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.
There is a difference between a normal warrior and a warrior that takes a city. A normal warrior was just a front liner but the one who takes a city was above all warriors. He could direct the mission of the war. When we control our spirit, the bible says we are more than that mighty warrior that takes a city. He was grounded in knowledge to be able to direct a troop.
"I pray that with this knowledge you will decide to empower yourself as a mighty warrior to be able to control your spirit."
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